Certain experiences dampen our ability to process the future. Urgency dominates. We must therefore list many things that bring us joy: activities, foods, locations, etc and match that list with a very short list of people that show up for us..that love us….(not those who love us).
Then we have to put 2-3 activities/week on the calendar for at least 2 weeks out. [Doing so] rebuilds our future planning centers of the brain and builds good habits of mind for self-care.
When I hold myself accountable to what I know I deserve, the joy of giving is multiplied by my heart’s content.
Edited on 9.20.2011 for clarity